Thomas McNeil
August 2, 1965 - July 6, 2024
The McNeil family is heartbroken to say goodbye to our youngest brother Tom.
Left to miss him are his siblings - Mellody (Gary), Jo (Kirk), Pat, Rich and Michelle (David), step-mom Elsie, many nieces and nephews, cousin Arnold (Buffy) as well as friends in Hawaii and Alberta, especially Trena.
He was predeceased by his parents Dan and Phil and nephew Christopher.
After many narrow escapes, including being the "Honolulu Hostage" cancer claimed Tom too young.
His gregarious nature could not be quashed and even unable to speak he was still making friends and telling stories and jokes.
His last punchline - You don't eat a pig that good all at once!
A Celebration of Life will be held at a later date.
To all the McNeil family…. My deepest sympathies on the loss of your sweet Tommy. He will never be forgotten…. but always remembered with love and admiration.
RIP Tom. Free as a bird.
Love Chooch, Frank, Paige and David.
My heart goes out to all of the family and his friends and to his love Trena! I’ve known Tom 30 years and he was always the guy in the room with the biggest smile. He battled so many obstacles in his life and God decided it was his time. I just know he was welcomed by his parents in heaven and he’s riding high!
Rubber side down always Tommy.
Aloha my friend
I’ll see you on the other side!
Sherri
Thank you
You will be dearly missed/a new journey has began!!
McNeil family…..you took such good care of your sweet Tommy ….. i love each of you deeply and I shall always remember Tom as a “brother from another mother”.
My sincere condolences …..
RIP Tom….fly like a bird…..
Love Chooch, Frank, Paige and David.
I so sorry for your loss.
For the McNeil family
My heartfelt condolences to your family.
My deepest condolences to Tom’s family and friends. To watch the only person you love in this world battle cancer was so hard. Going from a carefree, take care of yourself type of person, to be taken care of, losing your freedom, to cancer, I’ve learned that cancer doesn’t care but the team he had, the nurses, the doctors all cared so much…I thank them for what they do everyday, it is not easy. Thank you all from the bottom of my heart.
I’ve always loved you Tommy and I miss you everyday. I will love you forever and a day.
Trena, Harlee, Caitlin, Shai, Oliver and glad you were able to meet little Devin.
Love you always.
Tom made an impact when you would chat with him on the street. He always had a story to tell and he always asked how you were doing. You will be missed. God bless you and keep you.
Thank you Bernie. He always had kind words for you. He told me his little stories about how you’d buy the kids a gift or a treat every time you saw them. I’m sorry for your loss too. He kept saying we gotta see Bernie. I know he’s in peace and I miss him everyday.
Tom had a smile that would light up a room and a laugh that was contagious. I was lucky enough to meet him 40+ years ago. He was playing some new music that I had never heard before, The Tragically Hip. Became my favorite band and i always thought of Tom when I heard them.
When I moved to Hawaii, Tom came to visit and never used that return ticket. He embraced Hawaii and the spirit of aloha. I have many memories of Tom and I will forever treasure them.
My condolences to Tom’s family and friends.
A Hui Hou Tom, until we meet again
I am stunned and heartbroken to learn of the passing of Tom. He was the roommate of my ex-husband, Mike and myself for several years in Hawaii. I can remember him riding that motorcycle quite well. He always had a story to tell on any topic that you may give to him.
He was so friendly and outgoing, always with a smile on his face and would seem to be boundless energy.
I only wish I’d been able to keep better in touch with him over the years. He will always have a place in my heart.
Again my heartfelt condolences to the entire family. I’m sure he’s looking down on us with a big grin on his face.
Little brother what can I say? YOU know. When we were little kids, mom told us to take care of each other. Mom never told us to stop taking care of each other. Then you had an opportunity to go to Hawaii and visit friends Perry, and Pam. You were supposed to only go for two weeks that turned into 21 years. Aloha bro. While in Hawaii, you didn’t just work, you enjoyed life. You learned how to snorkel, scuba dive, sail boats and fly up in a glider. And you met good people from around the world. And you married a beautiful Texas lady Sherry.😊 I wish I was there. Most Canadians only dream of doing what you did. When you walked into a room of strangers within 5 or 10 minutes, you would make everybody in that room feel comfortable. Thank you to all Tom‘s friends in Hawaii and Alberta and Texas. I miss you little brother aloha.😎
I was a friend to Tom, and he was a friend of mine. There was a mutuality, a reciprocal nature to our friendship. We didn’t make demands on each other, it wasn’t a quid pro quo. The reciprocity was not a condition of our friendship, it was a feature. We could ride together all day, have meals, drinks, and end up sleeping camped in the same yard, or on lanai somewhere. Or we could go for weeks without talking or seeing each other and it was all ok. Tom was easy to have as a part of my life and I hope it will be easy to let him go. I certainly had hoped to see him again. Not to be.
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My deepest condolences to Trena , who was a life long friend and companion of Tom’s
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To the McNeil Family and Trena( Partner). My sympathy to you all on the passing of Tom. As a Friend of Trena’s I heard many good stories of Tom. May He be at peace and flying with the Angels. God bless His soul.
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Ahh Tom. Gone too young but you are now pain free and at peace, that’s what counts. As a friend of Trena’s and only having met you a couple of times, you two had a history together, separated by many years in Hawaii but then reunited not long after you returned to Canada for a much lengthier relationship. I remember Trena telling me of your history together so many years ago (with a sparkle in her eye) and how you were leaning towards one another once again. The heart wants what the heart wants! Please know that Trena’s heart will be looked after by her friends. She misses you. Now straighten your halo,
keep the joint hopping with your humour, your stories and your smile! 😀Condolences also to your siblings and family.
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We met Tom a few times with our friend Trena , Tom had a larger than life way about him, always smiling, happy, creater of laughs and maker of fun times. He will be missed by many but leaves wonderful memories for those that knew him. Hope you will continue to tell your stories Tom and keep smiling, we love you❤️
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My thoughts and prayers are with the McNeil family during this sad time. I am so sorry for your loss, Tom was taken far too soon. Tom will always be remembered for his love of people, ease of making new friends wherever he went, and his witty sense of humour. I recall way back when his older brother Rich and I were first dating I called to speak with Rich on the phone and Tom answered- their phone voices were very similar and Tom knew that. He let me go on thinking I was speaking with Rich, confirming details of our date plans until suddenly I heard ‘hey! give me that phone!’ Rich grabbed the phone apologizing for his younger brother’s prank lol. Rest in peace Tom, you will be missed.
To the McNeil family, Trena and all of Tom’s friends and the people who love him, I am so very sorry for your loss. As you all know, he was a very special person who loved and lived life to the fullest. He was so accepting of people and so easy to be with. It’s hard to believe that light has gone out here on this Earth. I like to believe he’s riding high on the other side. Gone far too young.